Drj820 wrote: ↑09 Jul 2021 10:08
I had a thought the other day as Rodgers was at "The Match" and talking about mental health.
What if this entire thing has been a mental breakdown?
....
Rodgers is in the "take my ball and go home" stage of this mental roller coaster. Losing the NFCCG and watching Brady win an easy game was harder on him than most recognized. He will be back.
But Brady broke him.
I agree to an extent. I do think this is a major mental health hurdle for Rodgers. To me, it's always been about control. This is going to be a long post full of armchair psychology and psycho-babble. I've only touched on this in limited forms because I think it's silly to assume that I can know a person's heart and brain from a distance, but I've felt this way for a while, and it's July, so here we are....
If you listened to his comments from the time Love was drafted right on through to his post-NFCCG presser, including the weekly Pat McAfee interviews, at first it all seems like a contradiction.
Rodgers spent the 2020 season in some sort of zen mode of happiness. He was truly enjoying himself more than he has in ages. It was very apparent. So when he ended the season and threw a fit, everyone wondered "was the happiness a lie? was the zen mode an act?"
I think it was neither. I think he was doing some temporary coping mechanisms and is just now dealing with the fallout of his epiphanies. Let me explain.
So we all know Rodgers' post-Love press circuit focused on him saying he realized now that there are things he can't control. He always thought he'd finish his career with the Packers, and that he would exit on his own terms, and then the selection of Love made him realize that, in fact, the Packers were in control--they controlled how his career ended.
What he said (and what he wanted to believe) was that he came to terms with the fact that there are things he can control and things he can't, and he would worry about the things he can control and not worry about the things he can't. That is a very healthy life outlook, beneficial to all people, a foundation of addiction recovery programs, traditional therapy, and self-help mantras alike. I think he truly wanted to believe that and embrace it, and that he was serious when he spoke about it.
But Rodgers has been a guy who likes to be in control for most of his life. While the lack of recruiting and JuCo experience gave him a bit of humility at first, his ability to overcome that, play his way to a major college, and then into the conversation for the best QB in college football, then the NFL, gave him a sense of control--that if he worked hard, honed his craft, and played up to his own high standards, he would ultimately wrestle control of his own life back from the universe.
So when he found himself staring at a lack of control, he embraced all the right mantras and he really genuinely tried to grow from it. He was happy because he found love, he had a fun team, good teammates, a coach he liked and respected, and he tried not to worry about the other stuff--about the fact that the team had just asserted its ability to control his career.
But what I think ACTUALLY happened was that Rodgers focused on the things he could control as a way to once again wrestle back control of his life from the universe (in this case, from the team). He dedicated himself to playing his absolute best, because he knew if he played his absolute best, he would win MVP and the the Super Bowl. And the team would have no choice but to keep him for as long as he wanted. He thought that winning it all would grant him the control he was coping with losing.
So two things happened. One: he did not win it all. Two: the game was within his control to win (that's not to say he is to blame; it's to say he was one of the factors that could have turned the game for the better). I think when his ability to control his own play, his own success, his own trajectory did not lead to his ability to win the Super Bowl, he broke.
I guess I can see how Brady would be related to that. Brady does, it seems, have a higher level of control in all facets. He's defying age through diet and exercise. He's willed his team to so many championships. He left New England on his own terms, was granted a slightly higher level of control at his new team, and also won the Super Bowl there. Rodgers MIGHT look at Brady and say "wow, he seems to be in control of his body, his play, his career, and his team success." But I've never fully bought that this has a lot to do with Brady.
So I think when Rodgers looked at the way past players have departed the Packers, from Favre to Sitton to Jordy to Lang to Kumerow... he realized, in his moment of defeat, that nothing he did this season was going to give him back the control he thought he had in his life before Love was selected. He put his all into it, he controlled what he could control to his absolute best, and he still could be cut or traded or what have you at the drop of a hat. This is when his "I threw a wrench into their plans by having the year I did" comments really come into play.
When Rodgers realized that winning MVP didn't give him back control AND that playing elite football all year still didn't allow him to control for randomness and team outcomes by winning a Super Bowl, he was left to either confront the epiphany he made a year earlier--that he truly wasn't in control and should only worry about the things he can control and nothing else--or he could TAKE control back. And that's what he did. He realized after losing the NFCCG that if he wanted control of his life and career, nothing ON the field could grant him that. The only way to assert and achieve the control he wants over his career and life was to demand it.
Unfortunately, he's wrong. The true lesson is that you can't control everything, no matter how good you are. The true lesson was what he preached all year--that if you focus on yourself and not on things out of your control, you can live your best life, and he did. But it was too much for him to accept and embrace. He wasn't truly there yet; he was there intellectually but not on a baser, emotional, internalized level. And now we're all dealing with the fallout.
That's my theory, at least.